An episode of ‘Skinny Girl in Transit’ gave me chills and made me reminisce on how we blame our weight on everything.
Have you ever been cheated on and you suddenly take all the blame and guilt that comes with it because of your dress-size. You are probably not alone as I have had my fair share of guilt and shame and chances are you probably enabled the act from the very beginning.
Dealing with self-esteem issues and going into a relationship already feeling unworthy is setting the tone for disaster and a long ride of self-hurt and heartbreak especially when the term “let’s keep it low-key” comes in for all the wrong reasons. For me, I felt I had to be grateful he found me attractive enough. I accepted to be treated that way from the on-set.
Reminiscing to the time my heart ached from the multiple cheating and one scenario that stood out was a confrontation that ended in “you know I am not supposed to be dating you”. I look back with a different kind of guilt I allowed myself to be treated that way. All I am trying to say is, there is a probability you created an enabling environment because of your low self-esteem and self-worth and only you can fix it.
I have noticed the perception in the society when it comes to the fat girlfriend or wife, we admonish her for letting herself go and we secretly sympathise with the man in the picture and wonder how he found her attractive which I am yet to decipher. You are not responsible for his cheating because of your dress size, because the truth is, ladies we describe as the perfect ones get cheated on.
You are strong, beautiful, stunning and you deserve all the respect and love life has to offer.